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The last words my mom uttered before slipping into a coma when I was 11 were to my aunt. She said, "take care of them", referring to my brother and me. I was away in camp when she got sick, & beat myself up my whole life, until I had my daughter, & understood what love truly is. My mother never left me, I just had to learn how to see her with new eyes. Thank you mom. Your love is eternal; and we will forever be together.
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hailtofashion
Amanda your Mom is so beautiful! I'm so sorry to read how you lost her and how much you suffered losing her that breaks my heart! Your so right you and your Mom are together now and eternally I truly believe that with all my heart that she's always with you and your daughter.
May 15Reply
ds_boutique
Your mom was lovely! My heart goes out to you xoxo
May 16Reply
jessregelson
What a beauty. You look so much like her. Oh, my dear friend. Thank you for sharing this with us. ❤️💞
May 16Reply
islandmama
@rmccouture what style, and class❤️❤️❤️ how are you?
May 16Reply
rmccouture
@islandmama Hey Jacqueline! Thanks so much for the compliment! My mother really was stunning. I am doing better. Thanks for asking❤️ How are you? The boys?
May 16Reply
andine
Plus one to what @hailtofashion wrote above. I'm sorry for your loss and for the suffering you endured...your mother was gorgeous. Just like you. And I also believe that she is with you and your daughter always and forever. Sending you hugs... ❤️
May 19Reply
nia1113
@rmccouture Amanda, I cried reading your loving tribute to your Mom. Thank you for sharing how you overcame guilt & understand now how deep & infinite a mother's love really is. I'm sorry to know that you felt that way for so long; yet, also extremely happy for you that your heart is free now ~ able to fully comprehend & experience all of your Mother's beauty, courage & strength. Even this moment, she's alive in you and in your daughter; her LOVE for you unending & her spirit alive.♥
May 23Reply
rmccouture
@nia1113 Thanks so much Nia! You are SO special! I don't know how you continue to give and give, day after day! I get so bogged down in trying to sell that I don't have time to stop and read all of the stories, and share all of the great things people are doing on here. Thank you for keeping me posted on all of the causes and struggles that people have, so that I can support those who need help more often. You're an Angel❤️
May 23Reply
nia1113
@rmccouture Girl, trust me when I say this; I'm no angel (thank you for saying so just the same)! I'm just someone who has been through some stuff myself and I happen upon certain listings (I truly believe that I am led to them). In all honesty, I should be focusing MORE on selling and creating listings, but my ADHD kicks in, and.. well anyways. Your closet was one of my very first favorites and continues to be. I'm grateful that I have gotten to know you a bit throughout my time here.💕
May 23Reply
nia1113
@rmccouture In addition, Amanda, YOU yourself are an incredible & inspiring person. I'm in awe of everything you do, especially all your tireless efforts to help the cats who don't have a voice to advocate for themselves. Also, your closet, how else can I say this? Your closet is mind blowing, Sister!!! ♥😊♥
May 23Reply
tpmom
@rmccouture This is beautiful and not only do you look like your mom but she is very proud of the person you have become.
May 29Reply
demode
Good morning. Thank you for the written kudos about my daughter Erika. She has been a true joy within the walls of my home. In 2 weeks she is venturing out into the world. She has packed up her POSH, Shared her joys and made her new home plans. We'll both be happy for FaceTime. Love Love Love Cynthia
Jun 04Reply
grace4d
❤Love is everything❤ ur mom loved you ! And is always with you. thank u 4 sharing this. It brought on the water works but that's ok. my mother is still with me but also not with me w dementia. She'll be 85 soon. Take care sweet pff.🌻🌻💖💖💖 Dee
Jun 12Reply
septemberlover
Beautiful- May GOD Continue to Bless You!
Jun 13Reply
1smalltowngirl
@rmccouture Your mother looks so amazing, rather like you! 🖤🖤🖤
Jul 14Reply
jennas_world
She was and always will be absolutely stunning. Beautiful inside and definitely out!!! What an amazing mother you will always have! She's always right there with you!!! Always. Thank you for sharing her with us!❤️
Aug 12Reply
kleinlori
Beautiful.
Aug 12Reply
nlgka
Amanda this is beautiful your mother is gorgeous yes we will always be together I miss you honey 😘
Aug 12Reply
budjatom
❤️❤️❤️
Aug 23Reply
balgal2
@rmccouture today the 8'th is your mom's bday? It's my dad's 86 th bday!!!
Sep 09Reply
balgal2
@rmccouture she is so beautiful ❤ like you!!!
Sep 09Reply
kitty2528
@rmccouture Per your Photo's , you look Exactly like your Gorgeous Mother! 💞
Oct 06Reply
miss_moneypenny
This is so beautiful.... Thank you so much for sharing. 💔💔❤️❤️
Oct 26Reply
mugsyj
Wow! She certainly was Stunning! So sorry you lost her so young. She’s been such a huge part of you since day one and I’m sure she’s so proud! ❤️ I miss my mommy too. But we still see each other in my dreams. 🤗😘
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj It will be a year on the 27th since my dad passed. He was my rock, and really, the only parent I knew. That being said, the Law of Conservation states that "energy cannot be created or destroyed." Since we are all filled with energy, when our vessels can no longer contain it, it is released into the Universe. (cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj I believe that my mom has done more for me from where she is now than she could have ever done for me while walking the earth in human form. She really knows how to kick my ass into gear when I run off course! No human power could convince me to get back on track again, but those we love, who are not held back by ego, pride, & all of the other human nonsense we layer ourselves with....(cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj those who become pure love- they really can change us when we need it, & help us become the people we were meant to be. They're not "gone". We can't see them with our regular senses, but if we work on it, we can learn to see them in everything... (cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj I'm so sorry for your loss Marey. I hope your mom didn't suffer, and I hope that you learn to see her when you are awake, as well as when you are dreaming!❤️❤️❤️Amanda
Nov 06Reply
mugsyj
@rmccouture I had a wonderful last conversation w her. It was beautiful. She showed me her spirit guide who was always in the room w her. A tall robust red headed woman would just watch over her. I told my mom she was basically on ‘life support’ and that if she was unplugged she would pass. She was surprised at first but the next day she was so accepting and almost relieved and she was ready. I mean her body gave out due to diabetes but her mind was 100% and she said she was ready. 😘🌺✌🏼✨
Nov 06Reply
mugsyj
@rmccouture cont’d. She passed the next day on Mother’s Day at about 5am. And she came through my room and woke me up... I called out ‘Mommy’ and the phone rang... I answered it and just said ‘I know she’s gone she was just here hugging me’. True story! My daddy passed 2 years in Oct... so I’m an orphan. I actually saw my dad at his ‘dinner party’ after he passed, by the table looking at pics... he turned smiled & vanished. I do sense & see spirit from time to time...✌🏼😘
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj It's amazing that you got to say goodbye (I prefer "see you later") to your mom. I hope you were able to have that kind of closure with your dad. Like I wrote in the description, I was away in camp when she became septic. She had kidney failure, & had an operation on her intestines that was supposed to be nothing. By the time I got to the hospital, she was in a coma. (cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj She passed 10 hours later. It was really rough. I blamed myself for not being there, like if I had been there, I could have saved her, or I was a bad daughter for not being there. 11 year olds have all kinds of crazy ideas about things. I felt that way for a long time, until I had my daughter, who's now 12, & finally understood what it meant to love. (cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj My dad left long before his body did. He had dementia. It was f*cking awful to watch him be there, but not be there. The only blessing about that disease is that the person who has it doesn't suffer long. While he was aware that he was losing it, it was hard on him, but once he "left", wherever he went was peaceful. He would talk to people from his past, build things (just using his hands & the air, but he thought he was building stuff) (cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj He didn't know that he was in a nursing home, surrounded by lunacy. He thought he was on a boat, fishing. That was a gift... but the only gift. Watching him go like that was the most painful thing I have ever experienced. Don't get me wrong; I'd rather suffer any day than have someone I love suffer (& he suffered A LOT having me as a daughter! Lol!) But he was "my person", & I am still grieving, so I can't see him or feel him the way I can see & feel my mom (cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj My worst fear as a kid was that I would lose my dad. Even though I'm a grown-up now, that frightened child is still a part of me, & I need to allow her to grieve & process, reassure her that she's going to be ok, tell her she's lovable & safe. She is the one who blames herself for not being their for her mom. I've done a lot of work on my "parts", but I still have more to do! (cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj I had a spiritual guide, on earth. She taught me about my "parts". She told me to imagine a large school bus, & on the school bus were all of the different "Amandas"; the child, the teenager, the daughter, the mother, the teacher, the itty bitty sh*tty committee (a whole mess of me that liked to hold session in the back of my head & beat me up!) There are too many to mention, but you get the idea! (cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj The question that I had to ask myself at any given moment was "which Amanda is driving the bus?" For the longest time, it was the scared little girl, who didn't know how to drive, or where she was going. She turned the wheel over to a darker Amanda, who took me places I can't regret going, because they made me who I am today, but caused a lot of havoc for me & those I loved most. (cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj I realized that none of my drivers were very good, so I had to turn the wheel over to the Universe, & trust that I would be taken where I needed to go, even if it was a painful journey. All journeys are painful, but I also learned that suffering was optional, so I work on not suffering. (cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj Being filled with self-pity is not pretty, or fun, or enlightening. It draws people to me who are unhealthy. I need to avoid suffering, work through pain, & use the lessons I've been taught to help others who are struggling. (cont)
Nov 06Reply
rmccouture
@mugsyj When I can do that, I turn every experience, no matter how off track I was, or how bad I messed up, into a positive, because I have survived, so I can give hope that others can too. It's all worth it when I can give someone who's in the dark a spark of light to help him/her through, y'know?
Nov 06Reply
mugsyj
@rmccouture Amazing! In the end, its our soul that matters, in this plain we r here to experience physical lessons & emotions. To love, fear, laugh & cry. Yrs aftr losing my mom I felt powerful because I survived my worst fear as a kid, losing the first person I loved! I told mom I would see her again. I thanked her for being my best friend & for nurturing my soul. I told her I would choose her again & again 💜
Nov 06Reply
mugsyj
@rmccouture cont’d...My dad passed alone. He waited for my brother and his wife & daughter to leave. Thankfully a week or so before, I had a nice day of conversations w him. And i have witnessed dementia and it’s awful for the survivors :( it really is. But thinking maybe your dad is still recovering from his transition... some do take awhile. You are an inspiration my dear! Thanks so much for sharing and talking w me! ❤️💜🖤💛🌺✌🏼✨😘
Nov 06Reply
vintage2classic
Read and cried and related, thanks for sharing. xo -Lorri
Dec 03Reply
rmccouture
@leviya Thanks so much for taking the time to read this Lorri. I'm sorry that you related to it, but if you're like me, you have found that as a result of what you went through, you have the unique ability to help others in a way that others can't. Our most difficult challenges turn into our greatest assets when we overcome them. Sending much love, light & hope. ❤️Amanda
Dec 04Reply
vintage2classic
"Our most difficult challenges turn into our greatest assets when we overcome them."
That was so beautifully said Amanda. And you are so sweet in your sensitive response to me. Blessing to you and continual growth! xo!
Dec 04Reply
thechakracloset
Beautiful tribute to your mom.
Beautiful closet.
Beautiful HP
💗
Jan 13Reply
thechakracloset
My photo and inspiration is my grandmother 💗
Jan 13Reply
gaylenknack
Prayers and hugs girl. Today and everyday. You are just as beautiful as your mom. 😘
Apr 20Reply
rmccouture
@gaylenknack Oh Gaylen my love! I am SO sorry for not responding to your many "hellos" over the past few months. Things have been so stressful, and I can't find time to breathe most days. How are you doing honey? How's your mom?❤️
Apr 21Reply
gaylenknack
@rmccouture That's ok honey. I understand. It happens. 😗 You're a doll for asking about mom. Thanks. She's hanging in for now, and we love each other so very much. It's a hard go though, as you know from your dad.
Apr 21Reply
tangotoes
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️☺️
May 09Reply
born_againbtq
Absolutely beautiful!! Thanks for sharing your beautiful love and Mom💕💕💕💕
May 11Reply
relove7
That is beautiful, your mom was a natural classy woman, you are lucky to know that 😍,
May 12Reply
kelly32068
@rmccouture beautiful Amanda 💖😊 I stayed at my moms side until her last breath 😢 it was hard to see her go however the memory of her life are what flood my thoughts and not that one memory 💖 I miss her too 💖
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 I wish that I had been older, so that I could have been there for her. She had kidney failure, & the meds had caused a calcification in her intestines. No one mentioned that she would be having surgery when I left for my first summer at sleep away camp, because they didn't want me to worry. I had no idea what was going on back home (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 Truthfully, no one knew what was going on. The operation was supposed to be routine, but she became septic, and they didn't catch it, even though she kept returning to the hospital, because her body was poisoned. It wasn't until she got gangrene in her foot that the doctors realized just how sick she was; and by then, it was too late (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 I know if my parents had any idea that she was going to get so sick so fast, and pass away, they would have brought me home sooner... but they didn't, so when my aunts showed up to get me (I was literally walking through the woods in the Adirondacks. I have no idea how they found me,) she had already slipped into the coma, & they told me she was going to die (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 I saw her for the last time the night of July 31, 1984. I was 11 years old. She was in a coma, and I have no idea if she heard me, begging her not to die. I hope that she didn't, but if she did, it's okay. She passed 10 hours later. I was so shocked, and felt so much guilt for not being there (you know kids. We convince ourselves things like "if I was there, I could have saved her; even thought that's totally not true) (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 I actually PRETENDED to cry at her funeral. I couldn't feel anything. I was numb. I forgot everything about my childhood when my dad walked in the door, and said "she's gone". I was standing at the top of the stairs. I saw my mother's cousin pass out, and the entire house erupted in despair. It was as if there was a titanium door in my mind that immediately shut; blocking out everything.... (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 I couldn't remember her voice, I had very few memories of us being together. It was like my childhood was erased, with the exception of small vignettes that I had based on photos, and stories my brother told. It was too painful, I think. I tried for years to remember, and finally gave up. I thought the memories were gone (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 But they weren't. When I was around 34, I had the strangest experience. I was petting my brother's dog (he had passed away from kidney failure 5 years prior), and she started to whimper. She looked at me, and something, I guess the titanium door, OPENED! The memories from my childhood came flooding back to me over a 3 day period of time, and it was awesome and terrifying! (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 I understand a lot more today why I was so hard on myself when she passed, because I remember things that happened before which affected how I thought my mother felt about me (again, children have crazy ideas based on very limited experience!) I am not sorry that she passed when I was so young, because I know that energy cannot be created or destroyed, and I learned how to see, feel and know her through mediation & prayer (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 She does more for me from where she is, free from the bondage of the human experience, than she ever could do for me while walking the earth in human form. She gives me what I need to grow (which usually consists of pain! Lol! I am stubborn, and grow at the speed of pain. She knows that, so she kicks my butt when I veer off of the path!) (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 364 days each year, I am grateful to have such a powerful energy, guiding me, giving me strength and love, and lighting my path for me. But every July 31, I relive the trauma of what happened. Now that I have a daughter, it's almost worse, because when I think of that happening to her... well, I don't have kidney failure, & aside from being too thin & having a brain injury, am relatively healthy, so I don't worry about her losing me (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 But I know that she worries about it, and I know that my mother would never have wanted me to beat myself up the way that I did for so long... but it was part of my journey, and taught me how to accept death in ways that other people can't. Death is not an ending; we just need to learn to see our loved ones with new eyes. (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 They're never gone. Their energy cannot be created or destroyed. It is with us whenever we call on it, and the more we practice, the stronger we can sense the truth of their presence and love. I have to get your address to send you those earrings! Maybe I can just make a private listing for you for $3, and we can ship them through Posh? I'm still digging through my jewelry to locate them, but I KNOW I have them! I promise! (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 I was blessed to be able to be there for my father until the end. It was very hard, because he left long before he passed (he had dementia, as I believe you know). But I understood him in a way that others couldn't, and I knew that he wasn't suffering, which was the greatest gift I could have received. I suffered, however I would rather suffer than see my dad, who was my person, suffer. (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 I am still grieving his loss pretty hard. It will be 2 years in November. That being said, I am starting to feel his presence, and know that as I continue to sooth the little girl inside of me, who doesn't understand that he's still here, I will feel him more and more, just like I feel my mom and brother. My dad was the only parent I had (although my stepmother is stupendous it's not the same), so the grief is a little more complicated (cont)
Aug 02Reply
rmccouture
@kelly32068 But at least I understand that today, and can give myself the time I need to grieve without shame. I had a lot of shame after my mom passed. It was embarrassing for me, at 11, when people asked me if my mom was picking me up, or where she was... it was a hard age. As a grown up, I know that I did right by my dad, and know that he is at peace, and still here, getting closer and closer to me as each day passes.❤️
Aug 02Reply
kelly32068
@rmccouture omgoodness Amanda I can’t even begin to say how your words have made me feel, I have tears in my eyes as I read them and just think of how hard it must have been for you at 11 😢 I also depend on my spiritual side to get me thru my day to day, I think when you lose parents especially at such a young age you find your own way to deal, like titanium doors, I’m so glad you found strength later in life through your mom and use her daily for continued strength, cont ..
Aug 02Reply
kelly32068
@rmccouture sounds like your father raised a wonderful little girl into beautiful amazing woman. Your daughter, who by the way is simply goods so beautiful as well, is luckily to have such a wonderful mom. I’m sorry to hear about your injury Amanda, when I look at pictures of you on Posh I’m am in awe of your beauty you really are a stunning woman so not only are you beautiful outside you have that beauty inside and that my friend is what gives you that glow I call stunning, cont’
Aug 02Reply
kelly32068
@rmccouture I’m so happy we got to talk like this 💖 I love meeting others who have that spiritual side and are not afraid to say it, I know for a fact if it wasn’t for my Lord I wouldn’t be able to face each day, I have Graves Disease and MS and now they are thinking Lupus, not sure I even want to do the test, maybe just put it in his hands 🙏🏻💖 and I’m not worried about the earring, when they turn up that’s when I’m supposed to hear from my mom again 😊💖 I’ll keep you and cont’
Aug 02Reply
kelly32068
@rmccouture your mom in my prayers daily 🙏🏻💖 for that continued strength you share together 💖 you have a blessed day Amanda and if you ever need anything plz ask I’m happy to help ok 😊💖🙏🏻 Kelly
Aug 02Reply
divineduchess
Awww. She is beautiful. I know she is looking down on you and sees what a wonderful mother you are.
Aug 02Reply
gaylenknack
@rmccouture Oh, my. We were both born blonde! Lol. She was truly lovely honey. I an see where you get it. 😘
Aug 02Reply
dhwpw1
She is beautiful and she will always be by your side. Mothers always try to save her kids from pain. I’m sure you feel blessed she was your mother.!
Aug 02Reply
misscorbeau
So pretty!
Aug 03Reply
musemax
She was gorgeous! It never gets easier...my mom has been gone for 48 years. I think about her every day. I am so lucky to still have my father. It is hard.
Aug 04Reply
lasuzanamaison
Beautiful family!
Oct 19Reply
sassyass76
A beautiful tribute for a radiant lady 💜
Nov 14Reply
amanadyunique
@rmccouture ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Mar 31Reply
miah100
I’m not crying :(
Jul 17Reply
gfilippi
♥️wow.
Jul 27Reply
mittens_kittens
I can only imagine a love like this, for I am from a narcissist mother,and I have never lived up to her expectations, I always dreamed of this,you are truly so blessed 💗
Aug 07Reply
catsdraggeditin
Oh, Amanda, I’m truly sorry for your loss - at 11. Your Mom is so classy. Beyond beautiful. And radiates a wealth of warmth that only those with the purest, brightest souls can generate. Tears are rolling down, my friend. I thought of your Mom & can feel the love just from reading your incredible tribute. 😇❤️
Aug 15Reply
rmccouture
@something2see ((((Kathy))))You are so kind, and so sweet to take the time to read about my mom. I do feel her love, every day, and know that she does more for me from where she's been since I was 11 than she ever could do for me on earth! I love cats too! I currently have 5; all cats who I rescued from the streets, and am part of a TNR group that traps feral cats,has them spayed/neutered,& then releases them, places insulated, safe shelters where they can live out their lives in a healthy way.
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see I saw the photos of your cats! My first adoption from the streets was a calico. I then found a white cat, who also had a tattoo on his ear! So weird! Do you know where the tattoo is from? I never figured it out; all I know was that he was so dirty, he looked grey when I found him, & he didn't care about the food I put down; all he wanted was rubs! I named him "Oscar" after Oscar the Grouch, (he looked like he had been living in a garbage can; poor thing!) My other cats are black..
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see I have 2 ragdoll mixes, Chewbacca & Princess Leia. Chewy is 30 lbs! I'll tag you on a photo I have of him.He had to have an emergency surgery after the vet was unable to rid him of crystals in his urethra. He's doing better now, but he's SO FAT! I don't know what to do! I have 2 tuxedo cats, who live in a separate part of my house, because Chewy is too dominant, & the 2 tux cats get bullied by him. I wish I could get them to get along, but I haven't been able to yet! (cont)
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see I took in the cats I had left behind with my husband, who was found dead in his house a little over a year and a half ago. They were in really bad shape. He was very sick, & couldn't take care of himself, or our daughter, much less the cats. We had 11 between us when we split, & I left 6 behind. There were 3 left when he passed. 2 of them have since moved on, but I still have 1 left! I take solace, knowing that I gave them a good home, & attention & care they were starving for...
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see I feel guilty for leaving them. I didn't really know how bad it was until I got the cats out of the house. There was a domestic short hair, with matts so bad, I had to shave her in order to help her move! I think the last 9 months of her life were the best she had since she I had to move out. ANYWAY, it's really great to "meet" you! I didn't see a panther in your closet, but I did see a beautiful black cat! Was that what you were referring to when u mentioned a mini-panther? ❤️❤️❤
Aug 16Reply
catsdraggeditin
@rmccouture Yes, Harley is my mini-panther. lol He has a pose in one of my listings where he’s looking very panther & his low-ground hunt is def right up there w the big boys. The ear tattoo typically is ID that they’ve been spayed/neutered. Our vet’s TNR & she does it for rescues taken in to homes too - has a numerical system that IDs them as cats she’s done. Grant purposes, I think. Was Oscar neutered?
Aug 16Reply
catsdraggeditin
@rmccouture Poor baby - Oscar. I feel so ill when I think of a cat living like that & what he may have gone thru. Purrfect name but you must have had a major surprise after his first bath. Our white one, Ghost, is more fluffy now. Then, you’ve have your black ones. Your calico. Mine passed away last Saturday at 18. I’ve been depressed.
Aug 16Reply
catsdraggeditin
@rmccouture Your tuxedos. We have feral tuxedos here - SPCA TNR - w us. We got them, they did it. Props to you for dedication to it. It’s drops in the bucket here & there fr us. Wish we could do more. Two ferals are white w black markings. Very cute. The one adores me! I love it & I adore her. I’ll add pics & tag you later today or tomorrow.
Aug 16Reply
catsdraggeditin
@rmccouture Found a young tuxedo & I’m socializing him/her. Came to doorway btwn outdoor porch & kitchen other night. So, that’s cheered me up after losing Cutie. Forest is tuxedo baby. You’ve weathered many storms. I’m sorry about your husband & you jumped right in to help your babies when you knew. I’m going look at their pics & comment. I love all of their names. We’ve had to separate too in diff areas. ❤️🐈
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see Oscar wasn't neutered, but he was definitely FROM somewhere! All of the cats in the neighborhood where I found him were black, with white tipped tails (I named them after Greek Gods/Goddesses, and my Albatross, who was the only cat to break out of a spring trap, (he must have weighed about 20lbs in muscle! I saw him jump up a 10 foot wall once with a dead squirrel in his mouth- NO JOKE!) was black with a white tipped tail. He impregnated half the neighborhood! I named him Zeus!
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see Apollo & Artemis (his sister) were definitely his offspring! But Oscar was NOT black, and looked nothing like the rest of the colony... He had scratches all over his nose & face (the vet told me that was because he was a fighter, not a runner). In my neck of the woods, we clip the right ears of feral cats to show that they're fixed. Tattooing seems like a lot of work for a vet to do! I think that Oscar may have been in a lab at one point...(cont)
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see He had this thing where he liked to lick metal, and other smooth objects, like glass vases and smooth stones. He would drool when he licked them. It kinda reminded me of what calves do, when they are crated to be used as veal cows (horrible, what they do to them! They're kept anemic, so their skin is pale (I'm a vegetarian, & have never eaten veal, so I don't really know). The poor babies lick their cages to get iron!) I don't know if Oscar was in a cage as a lab rat or what...
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see I'm just glad I found him, took him off of the streets, and gave him a good home. I'm SO sorry about your loss of Cutie!! It's heartbreaking to have to make that call, but 18 is a long life for a cat. You must have taken excellent care of her! Apollo lived to be 16 or 17. I still have one left from the old Colony. I named him Atticus, after Atticus Finch from "To Kill a Mockingbird" b/c he was always arguing his point (very vocal, that one!) He's old now, but still holds his own!
Aug 16Reply
catsdraggeditin
@rmccouture Albatross is an awesome name. That’s power - wow! Sounds like a gorgeous colony there. My vet docks ears on ferals & tattoos ears. Same as SPCA. SPCA here doesn’t dock by much. Can be hard to see. Tattooing was back up in case ppl weren’t sure when they saw/trapped stray plus funding. So, lab sounds very believable. And, they get grants for animal testing so that jives.
Aug 16Reply
catsdraggeditin
@rmccouture My neighbors thought I was awful bc they heard thru my daughter that I wasn’t for animal testing. Well, a favorite neighbor on block does that so guess who is bad guy - me! I never said a bad word about her. My daughter asked bc there was a showing of hands at school so she mentioned my opinion - simply not for it & got to them. Weird.
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see I think Cutie may have sent the kitten to you! (I believe in stuff like that!) It's unusual for a kitten of a feral cat to end up being social. Atticus was born tame! Apollo & Artemis, not so much! I was told they were "fractious" when I took them to the vet to get fixed. They were just scared kittens, but the vet told me to put them back on the street, because they would never be tamed. I didn't buy that! (They also tested FIV+, but later tested neg (their mom must've been +)...
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see Kittens,like human babies, are born with their mother's antibodies, so they can test + due to that, but then become neg as they get older. Anyway, I learned to never look into the eyes of a cat I'm trying 2 tame (they stare each other down when exerting dominance (it's why cats go to people who don't like cats at parties! They're the ones who aren't looking at them!) I played classical music 24/7, & kept them in a big cage in my bathroom tub! I used welding gloves when I fed them!
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see (They were not happy when I first brought them home, & would have scratched/bitten my hand off!) After about a month and 1/2, between the avoidance of prolonged eye contact, & the music, & them getting used to me & my husband, they were tame! People couldn't believe it when I told them how wild they were at first! Artemis died sort of suddenly about 6 years ago... maybe longer. She & I got along, but we weren't close like Apollo & me. When I had to let him go, it was really hard.
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see I called him my shadow, because he was always following me, and after he passed, I still saw him out of the corner of my eye, everywhere in the house. It was horrible.It took me going away for about a week to stop seeing him. He had gastro-lymphoma (most common cancer in cats). I was giving him IV fluids twice a day at home, & eventually tried Chemo, which was a mistake. He had a terrible reaction to it, & almost seemed to develop dementia after a few doses. (cont)
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see I don't think I will try to treat my cats who get cancer again, unless it's a very specific case, with a really high chance of recovery. I knew, for instance, that if Chewbacca had his (ahem) removed, he would survive, but if he didn't, he would continue to develop crystals in his urethra, & be at risk of death/infection, so I had the surgery done (he was only 4 at the time, which is too young to not do everything I could for him). Cats can live for a while pain-free w/cancer...
Aug 16Reply
rmccouture
@something2see I think Apollo probably had it for about a year before he was diagnosed. I knew something was wrong with Chewbacca because he was meowing a lot, & I regularly check the bellys of my male cats for hardness in the bladder, so I knew what it was when I felt it. My husband let 1 of the cats I left behind suffer & die b/c he ignored the signs. It was awful. Just telling u to make sure you're aware of it, b/c it's usually fixable without surgery. Chewy was a rare case.
Aug 16Reply
catsdraggeditin
@rmccouture I appreciate it bc I didn’t know. I’ll def check bc I don’t want to lose them to something preventable. I’m going to use classical music, great tip on gloves (may need them) & Forest now looks at me in the eyes except when eating but eats w my hand right by bowl. I sit at a 45% angle - eyes averted - & is choosing to stay on our back porch on his own (have cat door). We feed the TNR pop fr here.
Aug 16Reply
catsdraggeditin
@rmccouture poor Chewy. Amanda, I saw a flicker out of corner of my eye days ago & thought it was Timber bc there was white. I went to room, called for her, looked, & no cats. Then, I heard a meow in Cutie’s room as I stood by it & looked in - no cats. Sounded like her - loud - not little meows. & I didn’t even think that Cutie may have sent Forest my way. The convos w Forest since her passing. Very comforting. Thank you. (more..)
Aug 16Reply
catsdraggeditin
@rmccouture because I think you’re right. The timing is no coincidence. And, bc I live in pain, I’m often in bed which is why Posh is helpful. Sharing distracts me fr physical pain. Cutie & I spent a lot of time together. I staggered so other cats spent time w me too but we were soul sisters. I’ll add a series of pics about a week before she died.
Aug 16Reply
catsdraggeditin
@rmccouture I’m a mess in them. Very unkept so I’ll remove once you e seen them. You’ll see what I mean about our relationship. We would call Real Housewives - Real CatWives bc she likes watching them. Truly. There’s a deep absence. I know you know. Maybe Apollo will help Cutie along her way.
Aug 16Reply
catsdraggeditin
@rmccouture oh my gosh, earlier I meant 45 degree angle. I’m reading over in case something I wrote is unclear.
Aug 16Reply
lookyourbest3
You are amazing ❤️
Nov 28Reply
derinda
Oh she’s beautiful!!!!! I love the bathing suit picture!!
Jan 28Reply
soireegoodies4u
Amanda, I’m sorry for your loss!!! It never gets easier! What beautiful words! Yes, you carry your mother in your heart, always!
Apr 09Reply
kandi07
So sorry about your mom. Thoughts and prayers.
Sep 01Reply
noescape2009
Such a beautiful tribute. You live through her eyes
Oct 23Reply
kbezad
not sure how I got here. Just admiring your closet looking at all the beautiful art you have..
What a moving and lovely tribute. I’m so sorry
for your loss. Sending you love. She was beautiful. gonna call my mom tomorrow. 💜
Oct 28Reply
elektra10
❤️
Jul 25Reply
trinitystresor
@rmccouture such a poignant tribute. I’m so sorry 💔😪…crying for that 11 yr old child inside you. Nothing compares to a mother’s love.💝 I see her beauty & shining light in you. How wonderful that love has come back around full circle. You’re well protected and guided by 👼👼 above. Much love 💗 & prayers to you, Amanda💞🙏🏼💞
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